Those who say love should be selfless either don’t know the meaning of selfishness or are lying themselves because of simple ignorance in essence.
Selfishness means to think about yourself. Fullstop. There are no ifs, buts, whys and hows. We are taught to explain love as selfless act but lets think about it for once and all.
In selfless “anything”, things you do, the work you put into, the efforts you give in, the beneficiary of those actions are anyone except yourself. I love you because you would be happy if I stayed with you. I love you for you. I love you because you want me. In selfless love, the love you do is not for you, its for the person you do. Doesn’t it sound wrong in itself? That’s in accord to the acceptable definition of selflessness. If you say your love is selfless, it means its not for your own happiness, rather the person you are tending to.
If you aren’t the sole beneficiary of the actions, efforts, and hardwork you do, ask yourself how does it guarantee the quality of those efforts you give in? I love you because I feel happy being with you. I love you because theres nothing in the world more important to me than you. I love you because I want you. These are sound to hear and to acknowledge.
A person who doesn’t love themselves is incapable of loving others. We all believe this yet when it comes to about love, we are scared to express and explain that the things we do in love is for our sake. We are afraid because we are taught that being selfish is wrong, having selfish pleasure is wrong. To love oneself is wrong.
Love is a trade but the currency of love is the values and virtues we have, build and exchange.
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